Some Asari Headcanons

So I have been notoriously bad at making headcanons for any other species besides turian, so I figured I’d think up some trying to sleep last night. These are all in no order and really probably not all of them.

• Asari usually range in what we’d call adult human male heights. So heights around 6 foot, give or take a few inches, is normal for them. Why? Not only do I think it’s cool for them to be such, but just imagine this: asari probably didn’t run with the problem humans have of males needing to be big to compete for females and females being smaller because, as bad as it stinks, males in most species are served first, so to speak. Having a larger female would mean she gets just as much or more resources than a male, but if the male is taken out of the equation, then size for a female turns into a serious advantage. Imagine how great it’ll be for an asari to be big enough to not only carry her young easily, but defend them against predators? Having other species for dads may affect the heights a bit, but going off of canon for asari, fathers only help to randomize ‘asari’ DNA, so you aren’t bound to get a drastic shrinkage.
• Though they’ve come to accept it as natural – and find ways to enjoy it – thanks to centuries in the company of male/female species, asari didn’t originally find a need or appeal in penetrative sex. In animals with two sexes (male and female), a female’s pleasure spots can be related to a male’s. As a fetus, we all have very similar structures that gain just the smallest of changes thanks to hormones, but the nerve structure is the same. For example, a clit can be related to a penis – the ‘head’ of a penis being directly related a female’s clitoris. Even the g-spot has a male equivalent, the prostate. Both pleasure spots exist to better aid penetrative sex, the pleasure coming from stimulation. If an asari doesn’t need penetration, then their bodies would not possess a clit or g-spot, as they wouldn’t need the pre-structure for a penis or a glance that secretes fluid to aid in the travel of sperm for fertilization. HOWEVER!
• Asari find mind melding for the sake of pleasure absolutely incredible. When they combine the two, penetrative and melding, they can have just as healthy as sex life as any other species. Just because they are in a gray area in terms of sex organs, they make due. (“Life, uh, finds a way.”)
• When young, this confusion can sometimes lead asari going into their maiden years thinking penetrative sex is ‘gross’ because, really, who wants stuff up there where babies come from? Melding for pleasure isn’t really something they can just teach in school, so learning that they can connect penetration for their partner with melding for them has to come from experience. It leads to some asari – usually those who disagree with mixing with other species due to some superiority complex – openly disagreeing to any penetration, but that’s uncommon.
• Asari can directly influence what their partner experiences during a meld, often explaining that sharing in a meld is better when they both know the intent from the start. For instance, polite society looks down on asari digging through people’s heads. I’d say it’s most likely down right illegal as invasion of privacy to the worst degree. That’s why asari children are taught how to control what they look for in their melding partners. It often helps of they tell their partner to think of the certain thing (ie. telling Shepard to think of the beacon vision) in order to keep out of that whole mess. In return, an asari can think of something on their own and can either share the actual memory, or trigger one in their partner by sharing a mood, emotion, or vague idea. In short, think about sexiness together, get sexiness from it. Think of something bad while the asari thinks of something good, and it can help heal.

I’m sure there are more somewhere in this thick skull of mine, but I can’t fetch them at the moment.